Life Tip #4 Weight, Beauty, and Value

I see a lot of girls wondering if they're pretty enough, fearing they're not, wondering if they're thin enough, fearing their not, and the word "healthy" being thrown around all in the mix.

Let me clarify.

This realization comes after year and years of my own pain, my own confusion.

First.

You are already beautiful.

Not just beautiful enough.

You are beautiful. 

You are. Just as you.

When  you exist well, live well, pursue your best self than your very state of being is beautiful. Don't let them lie to you, don't let them trick you into thinking anything else. You're not just beautiful, you're captivating, you're precious, you're lovely. Neither your health nor your weight have anything to do with whether or not you're beautiful.

Second.

Do you eat healthy food? Do you usually get enough sleep? Do you take care of your body and try to avoid and heal injury and illness? Are you physically active? Do you exercise for enjoyment? Do you make efforts to be as emotionally healthy as you can be and to be your best self? If so, CONGRATULATIONS, you are thin enough. In fact, you're perfect. Don't let them lie to you. Health and weight are not the same. There are many many unhealthy people who are very thin. They believe the lie and it will end their lives prematurely. If you are healthy, you are healthy. This "healthy weight" shit has got to end. If  you are consistently healthy your weight will be healthy for you. This is a simple equation. It doesn't even require math.

Third.

For the record, and let me be very clear, neither your weight, nor how closely you fit into the very limited idea of commercial "beauty," nor how healthy you are or are not, nor how well you take care of your body or mind, nor how damaged your body and mind are or have been. Not how much money you have or ever will have. Not your weight. Not your political leanings. None of these things determine your value.

You exist.

You are valuable. 

You deserve dignity.

You have value.

Life is your gift, don't let anyone (not even your own mind) try to trick you into thinking it's a gift you have to give back.

You are not a commodity to be appraised and acquired. Human value is NOT a limited commodity. It never will be.

IT NEVER WILL BE.

You are valuable. You, by existing, have value.

You.

So, yeah, take that with you, and keep your head up. There's a lot of confused and angry people in the world who will try to lie to you, who have believed lies themselves.

But we know better.

I wish

I wish I didn't have to eat...or sleep. Mostly eat. Do you know how much of my life is consumed by eating, getting food to eat, preparing food to eat, thinking about what I'll be eating, thinking about what I need to get or need to do in order to eat? It disgusts me. What disgusts me more is if I don't think about it at all I'll get more enormous than I already am. "Taking care of your body" means obsessing over food and how you can avoid certain kinds. I hate it. I wish I didn't have to eat at all. I wish I could subsist on air and water.

I love that I'm off sugar. That's one less thing I have to eat. It worries me that I might be replacing the calories with something else. My body sucks, it fights me when I'm only trying to make it not gross.